During our childhood, many of us endured some level of judging and labeling from other children.  As children we were targeted for many reasons including race, ethnicity, class and health conditions.  All of this labelling and judging seemed cruel at the time, and it was cruel.  But, as we grew up we learned that this behavior toward others was inappropriate and I would like to think that as we matured, we learned to be kinder and more understanding of each other and our differences.  But some of this unfair judging and labelling of others has taken a foothold in society and it is particularly prevalent when it comes to our attitudes toward those suffering from mental illness.  We refer to this as social stigma, and our society continues to fail by perpetuating the stigma associated with mental illness.

So what can we do to stop the unfair judging and the perpetuation of social stigma around mental illness?  Here are some simple suggestions:

1. Normalize conversation
People tend to fear what they don’t understand. Open, matter-of-fact discussions about conditions like depression or anxiety disorder can be helpful. This includes using accurate language and avoiding jokes or stereotypes.  It is important to know that mental health challenges or mental illness do not define a person.

2. Challenge misinformation (gently but directly)
If someone says something inaccurate (e.g., equating mental illness with danger,weakness or a character flaw), correcting it calmly matters. You don’t need to lecture—just offer a clearer perspective or a fact.

3. Model behavior in small interactions
Simple things—listening without judgment, not dismissing someone’s feelings, avoiding “just get over it”— can have a ripple effect.

4. Address structural barriers
Stigma isn’t just attitudes—it’s also access. Expanding affordable mental health care and integrating it into primary care reduces the “separate and hidden” feeling around it.

I would be remiss if I did not mention here that Senator Paul Wellstone from Northfield Minnesota championed legislation to expand mental health care and he understood that stigma was a barrier to people getting the help they needed.  His legislation passed after his tragic death in a plane crash in 2002.

At Ruth’s House our goal is to create a safe, supportive and a kind place that is void of stereotypes and judgmental language.  We hope that our entire community will help to create a similar space that will allow our friends, neighbors and community members who are suffering with mental illness to feel free to seek care and to find friendship and comfort from their neighbors.  May is Mental Health Awareness Month – lets’s all be aware of how we can prevent the perpetuation of stigma about mental illness for our neighbors, friends and family.

If you need to talk, the 988 Lifeline is here. At the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, they understand that life’s challenges can sometimes be difficult. Whether you’re facing mental health struggles, alcohol or drug concerns, or just need someone to talk to, their caring counselors are here for you. You are not alone.

Susan Stout

Outreach Coordinator

Ruth’s House/Sarah’s House